Dating made simple

Start with yourself

Add your name, photos and a few words about what matters to you. Only photos approved by moderators appear in Discover. Moderation checks that a photo is acceptable — it does not verify identity.

Write first

A mutual like isn’t required. If someone’s settings allow requests, you can send one first message for 8 Credits. The conversation continues once they accept. A reply or read receipt is never guaranteed.

Credits

A message and its charge are saved together; retrying the same request never creates a second charge. If your connection drops, retry with the same text.

Gifts and donations

You can send real gifts from $10 — flowers, jewelry, phones and more — to people you chat with or have liked, paying with Credits or by card. They accept (and share a delivery address only with the afterdark team) or decline; a declined gift is refunded in full. You can follow the delivery until it arrives.

Donations go to the recipient’s donation balance. afterdark keeps a 10% service fee — you choose whether to add it on top or take it from the donation. The recipient can move donations to Credits or withdraw them — only donation money, and only to a card they have already paid with on afterdark. Gifts and donations never oblige anyone to reply or meet.

Community rules

afterdark is for adults 18+ only. Use your own photos and truthful information. Respect consent: threats, harassment, scams and impersonation are not allowed. Contact details stay off afterdark — see below.

To enforce these rules and investigate reports, afterdark moderators may review profiles, photos and conversations.

Keep conversations on afterdark

Asking for or sharing contact details isn’t allowed — that includes phone numbers, email addresses, Instagram, Telegram, WhatsApp, Snapchat and other social media or messenger handles, and links. Please keep every conversation here, on afterdark.

Why: moving a chat somewhere else is the most common first step in romance scams and harassment. Here you can report or block anyone for free, and our moderators can step in; in another app we can’t protect you.

When a message or profile text contains contact details, it isn’t sent or saved and nothing is charged — you can edit it and try again. Each attempt counts as a warning. Repeated attempts lead to a pause on messaging and calls, and then to the suspension of the account.

If something feels wrong

Every profile and conversation has “Report” and “Block”. Reporting is free and reviewed by a moderator. For access questions, contact the organiser. A dedicated support channel and commercial terms will be published before the public launch.

You control your data

In Settings you can hide your profile, limit new requests, download your data or delete your account. Your date of birth is never shown to others — profiles only show your age.

Your conversations are private between you and the other person. afterdark moderators may review profiles, photos and conversations when enforcing the community rules and investigating reports.